Updated: Oct 22, 2019
One of things that hold us back is what almost happened before. We live in fear of the near misses, close calls, almost happened situations as if they actually occurred. We worry that it is just a matter of time before "it" or "them" really get us. The close call made us feel way too vulnerable, way too exposed, way too much at risk. Now we are living life waiting for the other shoe to drop even though the "would haves" never happened.
Look at Psalm 124:
1 If it had not been the Lord who was on our side —let Israel now say— 2 if it had not been the Lord who was on our side, when our enemies attacked us, 3 then they would have swallowed us up alive, when their anger was kindled against us; 4 then the flood would have swept us away, the torrent would have gone over us; 5 then over us would have gone the raging waters. 6 Blessed be the Lord, who has not given us as prey to their teeth. 7 We have escaped like a bird from the snare of the fowlers; the snare is broken, and we have escaped. 8 Our help is in the name of the Lord, who made heaven and earth.
The psalmist gives praise to God for being on their side. He goes on to talk about all the "would haves" that weren't: being swallowed by enemies and being overwhelmed by a flood (vv.3-5). He then praises God because they escaped what "would have" destroyed them.
The good news is that if you are reading this post, YOU have escaped. It did not destroy you! So quit living in the land of the "would have's" and what "was" and embrace verse 8: "Our help IS in the name of the Lord, who made heaven and earth." Whatever today brings, you have some right now help. No more "would have's" for you, move forward in all that can be!